I have set some spirituality goals for myself, and I can fall back into a pattern of beating myself up when I feel like I’m not reaching them.
One of them is unconditional love.
But when I find myself in a situation that I cannot immediately take a break from and where I cannot manage to feel unconditional love for another, I remind myself that it’s okay.
Really, it’s okay.
And instead, in the situation, I love myself.
Why do I do this? Because I’ve felt the difference in the texture of my inner state and experienced the difference in the thoughts I have access to, the words I speak, and my actions when I am in the frequencies of Love and when I am not.
And if I am becoming agitated, aggravated, frustrated with the person I’m dealing with, that is moving me away from the energy I want to be in.
So in the moment, I start flowing love to myself. I love myself.
When I do that, it creates a bit of breathing room from my current situation.
When I do that, my overall frequency setting moves back towards Love, regardless of whether the other has changed their behaviour at all.
And from that space, I am more likely to respond in a way that is in harmony with how I want to be rather than reacting in a way that will likely not be.
Having a regular Love Meditation practice really helps me here. Because I am able to switch to feeling love for myself quite smoothly now. I’ve already built up that momentum in peaceful, non stressful times, so I can find the frequency more easily in challenging times.
This has been the spirituality practice that has helped me the most in my day-to-day life.
If I can’t love the other, I love myself.