“When you finally allow the realization that you have no control over what other people are doing or what they are thinking about you, you can be hit by a sense of false powerlessness.
I say false because the idea of controlling the thoughts and behaviour of others by whatever means (manipulation, threats, cajoling, hierarchical systems, convincing them of your worth, begging, etc) was never a possibility to begin with.
That is never where your power lies.
But when it first dawns on you that nothing in your bag of tricks can force another human to do, or not do, the thing you want, there is a sense of loss and fear.
Because wanting to control others is always about fear.
No matter what reasons you use, fear is at the root of it, beneath it all.
Are you willing to take this great leap away from one of your biggest fear-based behaviours?
When you do, you’ll no longer be affected by any of these phrases.
‘I have no control over what others think about me.’
‘I have no control over what others say about me.’
‘I have no control over whether others choose to be in my world.’
When you can say those without squirming internally, what freedom you’ll feel.
Freedom is one thing you say you want.
But how can you experience freedom while simultaneously believing, hoping, that you have power over others in some way?
Because if that is true, then you automatically make it a possibility that others can have power over you.
Freedom begins to come with the deep realization that you have no power over anyone.
And so no one has power over you.”
~~ from my Higher Self