We so dislike the feeling of being uncertain that we’ll imagine that things that aren’t certain are
Many of us would rather pretend to be certain than admit we are uncertain
certainty = authority
But certainty is constrained boxes. Uncertainty is endless possibilities
Am I actually pessimistic? If I fear uncertainty, infinite possibilities, isn’t it because I’m expecting something unwanted more than something wanted?
Uncertainty when it comes to the future is seen as a negative thing, but is it always? Is it ever? Is certainty the way we think of it even possible?
The more details we plan out, the more variables we limit and control, the safer we feel
certainty = safety for many of us
Maybe what’s at the root of “micro managing” and “control freak” behaviour is a desire for safety. They are chasing that feeling, but they feel so deeply unsafe that they try to assuage the feeling with more and more control, planning, power
The best laid plans can be ruined by “random” events
I hold on to the past so tightly because the past is one thing that I feel I can be truly certain. Once an event has happened or a conversation has been spoken, that’s it. One version. It’s certain
I think this false feeling of certainty is why I get so angry when some tells a different version of events than what I think “really happened”. But that awful feeling I get isn’t because the other person is lying. It’s because one of the few areas where I fooled myself into thinking that I can be certain, that there is only one version of events, is being challenged, undermined, and ripped away from me
