Why do so many of us have an urge to try to change someone’s mind when we realize their position/belief is different from ours? Do we feel threatened?
Wanting to convince someone of anything stems from a fundamental belief in right and wrong, doesn’t it? If I don’t believe myself to be right is there any push to get the other person to think as I do?
There is a lot of resistance to being the one to change their mind in a discussion. For many, it feels like losing or an admission that we were wrong. Perhaps we feel like it puts us in an inferior position sometimes. That we’ve lost face
Strong win-lose paradigm
Discussion requires openness and allowing else it is a debate. Debate is win-lose
No one regardless of what fact, reasoning, or evidence they present can convince me of anything if I am not open
When two people who are strongly holding on to a belief regardless of what happens or how things change talk to each other, it’s almost as if they aren’t interacting with the other person but rather the strongly-held belief that is in turn trying to hold on to the person and stop them from changing. It’s like the energy of the beliefs build walls around them. Once those walls are in place, no one can breach them from the outside. It has to be an inside job
Changing my beliefs and opinions is fluid and natural. I’m reminded of “Change is the only constant”
